A Key Thing is Missing in Most Self Help Advice, and it's Simple

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. ~Winston Churchill~   We are the consequence of our past and at the same time the cause of our future.

This means that right now we are creating our future with our every thought and with our every action. Let’s see how.

We all accomplish goals in our personal life, in school and on the job. So I have a question for you: "Whose goals are you accomplishing?" Are these really your goals or are they imposed upon you?

For, how do we explain that 2% of the population has 90% of the wealth in the world? This is a well-known fact. Another question comes to mind: are you among the 2%?

Set your own goals and act to accomplish them or someone else will hire you to accomplish theirs! Be the part of the 2%!

What is Your Goal?

It doesn’t matter where we are coming from. The only thing that matters is where we are going. Do you know where you are going? Do you really, exactly know your way?

If you do, I encourage you to proceed! But, if you don’t, I must ask you: "What is your goal?"

Related article: 5 Deadly Mistakes to Avoid When Setting Your Goals.

That is a crucial step most people don't take time to consider. Truth is, the answer is in you. Maybe your mind doesn’t realize it yet. But your heart does - and you can discover the answer when you are in the Alfa state of mind, which happens during meditation, for example.

Only connecting to your inner self can lead you to your true self and help you get an honest, ego-less answer to the question: "What is my goal?" When you manage to "find it out", set is as your priority, make an action plan, decide to accomplish it and do it!

Find out what your true task on this earth is. Easily focus inwards and complete the journey inside your heart.

Decision Comes First.

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Decision is just the first step, but actions are every step after that first one.

Do you know the story about the three frogs that are standing beside a lake and then one frog decides to jump in? How many frogs are now beside the lake? Three. For one frog decided to jump, but it never did! Don't be that frog.

The Missing Key in Most Self Help Advice Without Which all Else Crumbles.

You can learn verified practical techniques for bettering your own mind, or emotional development techniques, and then techniques to further your intellectual skills, you can even find management tools, problem solving tools, etc. The Internet is full of instructors. Books about self-development are all around us. But why do many of them not work?

Because the most important thing is missing: Until it is explicitly clear exactly where we should apply these techniques and how they will help, how can we know we are on the right track and that the techniques won't just hurt us?

Ask yourself why you aren't satisfied.

But first answer this: Have you set your own goals? And if you did, what are you doing to accomplish them?

Related article: 5 Steps to Take After You've Set Your Goals .

If you want to be successful and satisfied, then the first thing that you must do is to set your goals. Here are 10 points to help you realize whether the goals you've set are the right for you:

  1. You are the only one who knows what is best for yourself. Find it IN you.
  2. Create your own peace and find out what your desires are.
  3. Make a connection with your inner self.
  4. Transform your desires to goals.
  5. Find out what your main goal is!
  6. Set your own main goal.
  7. Create an action plan, set time limit and do it! Reach it! Live it!
  8. Excellence exists in you.  Be the excellence.
  9. Sense your feelings and listen to them. Do whatever it takes to feel good.
  10. Stick to it. Act. Do it!  If you fail, do it again and again. Try and try again. No one has succeeded doing something big in their first attempt.

Catherine B. Roy is an author and Founder of "Live from Your Heart and Mind" (LHM) community, Awarded Top 30 Under 30 Young Leaders in the World, Member of The Wellness Universe, Award Winning Artist and Scientist, Poet, Philosopher and Published Author whose stimulating, upbeat and inspirational writings have helped countless people in the world. It has helped them solve personal problems, infuse their lives with hope, energy and success, and remarkably improve people's relationships at work and at home. As the author and founder of the "Live from Your Heart and Mind", Catherine is the guiding force behind the "LHM" system for increasing a person's emotional and intellectual capacity, and inspiring them to positive change and accomplishment.

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