Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. ~ Henry Ford
Some people have so much confidence you are positive they were born with it, while the rest of us seem to struggle daily in trying to achieve any level of self confidence.
In this competitive society of ours, we fight to do better than the next guy. Show off who we are and what we can do, but when we fail, we fall in a heap on the floor, feel defeated and give up... So much for confidence.
But where does the confidence really come from and why does it seem almost impossible to have it and keep it?
Self image plays a huge role in this and the sooner we get a grip on that, the sooner your confidence level will soar through the roof.
The stories we tell ourselves, about ourselves, often do more damage than you realize. If you find yourself continually saying "I can't" then guess what? You can't. Ever.
Building up your confidence doesn't have to be hard or stressful. It's simply changing the way you think about things and about yourself.
Here are 9 simple ways to give that confidence a big boost.
1. Watch your tongue.
Our words are so powerful and we tend to forget that. They can either lift us up or bring us down.
In order to boost and maintain your confidence level, listen to your words about yourself. Are they positive, nurturing and loving or are you always putting yourself down? If it's the latter, you need to stop doing that immediately!
2. Mirror mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?
You are, my dear!
Mirror work is super fun and easy to do. I'll admit, it may seem rather awkward at first, but once you get the hang of it you'll be a mirror addict!
Any time during the day when you have a chance to be in front of a mirror remind yourself of how awesome and beautiful you are. Especially the awesome part. Shout it out, whisper if you have to but look yourself straight in the eye and give your ego and confidence a boost.
3. Hang out with your friends that look up to you.
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We all have a variety of friends. Our weekend friends, our coworker friends, coffee date friends and then we have the friends that think we totally rock for some reason or another. Hang out with those friends more.
Those are the people you need to be around. The ones that put you on a pedestal and love you to pieces and admire you for your charm, wit, sense of humor, great hair, whatever! Easiest way to boost anyone's confidence.
4. Try something new.
A new hobby, new game, new job, new vacation place - new anything.
Step out of your comfort zone and do something different. This will prove to yourself that you can do anything you want and you're not afraid to, even if it means failing.
5. Write down all the things you are awesome at.
Grab a pen and a pad of paper and away you go. Jot down absolutely every single thing you can think of that you are good at. It could be as little as keeping plants alive or singing in the car.
Whatever you think you are good at, write it down. There should be tons of things on your notepad. Every time you need a boost, grab your notepad and read all those awesome things you wrote about yourself.
6. Is she really better than me?
Well maybe she's better at baking cookies or vacuuming. Maybe she has skills and talents that you don't have. But what about the skills and talents YOU have that she doesn't?
Don't ever compare yourself to anyone and think they are better than you. We are all talented and skilled at many things. Remind yourself that you're the bomb when it comes to making chili or knitting up scarves.
Appreciate your talents.
7. Your inner beauty shines through.
Aside from all the great skills and talents you possess, there is probably a really beautiful person inside too.
Maybe you have a wonderful sense of humor or a very caring nature. Perhaps people like being with you because they feel safe with you or you're easy to talk to.
Don't forget all those great inner qualities of yours too. Those are just as important and a fantastic way to boost your confidence.
8. Don't talk to strangers?
Says who? We are taught this at a very young age for our safety.
As adults, we have our intuition to guide us safely, hence it's ok for us to talk to strangers and it's actually quite a fun thing. You never know what kind of relationship can be formed by doing this and that's the exciting part of it!
9. Starve fear and feed the faith.
Fear has a funny way of kicking our confidence to the curb. The more we feed into fear, the weaker our faith in ourselves gets.
Know that deep down in your heart of hearts, that you are ok, you are beautiful and you are awesome. Have faith that you are perfect just the way you are.
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There are so many opportunities that have been missed or lost because we didn't have the confidence to pursue them. Don't let any more of those opportunities slip away. Take control of your life. You can do this!